Why We Talk About Porn

December 3, 2015
chris

Why We Talk About

Their faces are so young and innocent. Some seem to have just released their baby fat. The boys are little things still, not having gone through puberty. When I say the word, there is a myriad of reactions. I can see flush cheeks on many. Giggles of embarrasment by a few. But there are always always a few who look down. Whose eyes quickly flicker and find a place to look as far from my eyes as possible.

Though they are young enough to still throw tantrums, I know many have already encountered porn. When the average age of exposure is 11, it’s inevitable that a percentage in every single classroom have seen something. For some, it has already become a reoccuring pasttime. For a few, it will become an addiction which overtakes them.

And for a couple, it will become so fierce and overwhelming they will need to act out in real life what they’ve stared at on a screen for years. They will become the buyers of sex one day.

They are the demand that fuels sex trafficking. And this is why we talk about porn.

I don’t enjoy doing this with adolescents. Some don’t even know what porn is, have never heard the word! Some are still so innocent and protected they barely know what sex is. But in the desk next to them? In the back of the room? The stark contrast is that some of their peers know all about all of it all too well. How to speak to such a spectrum of exposure and experience?

I don’t enjoy doing this, but I don’t do it to alarm them or shock them or shame them. I do it to protect them. I tell them that there is no supply without a demand. I tell them that the demand starts at their age. I tell them that 600 men responded to one ad on a sex website which ran for 2 months in our community, but that the majority of their stories did not start the day they made the call… it started years earlier when they first saw porn and then looked at more and then didn’t stop it and then couldn’t stop it. I tell them they could stop it, but that they had to take the first step.

I show them this video:

And I tell them they can get help.

But mostly? I look into their almost man eyes and almost woman eyes and I tell them they have the power to change this whole thing. I tell them they can lead their generation to end human trafficking once and for all. I tell them I hope that at least one of them decides that this is their thing: the thing they’ll sacrifice time and money to change- that they’ll say, not on my watch!

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I talk about porn with kids on the cusp of adulthood so that we don’t keep living the pain of broken marriages, the heartache of addiction that causes another to be enslaved, and the profliration of those who profit from the sale of another’s body.

I talk about porn because I want to end sex trafficking. And they are that connected.

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